I read this on the bus home after getting groceries... and I have never felt so seen. Thank you so much for taking the time, energy and courage to convey your experience so eloquently. Your writing is so poetic! I'm so glad you finally understand yourself 🫂... and I feel like I am one step closer on my own journey of understanding 🙏🏻
I'm so glad I read this and that I subscribed to you because this post has brought genuine tears to my eyes. I've never seen another ace person describe an experience that is so close to my own before. The confusion between romantic and sexual attraction because you grow up believing they tie in together, the sexual attraction tied in to your self worth, the arousal as a response to something happening rather than experiencing sexual attraction... I don't know, everything hit very close to home and I'm glad it did.
I'm also 30 and I don't want a relationship and I've struggled for a few years now with the fact that I'm 'supposed' to be having casual sex with people even though I'm not attracted to them, and I've often wondered how else it could be, so your description of Spring 2023 was especially touching.
I read this on the bus home after getting groceries... and I have never felt so seen. Thank you so much for taking the time, energy and courage to convey your experience so eloquently. Your writing is so poetic! I'm so glad you finally understand yourself 🫂... and I feel like I am one step closer on my own journey of understanding 🙏🏻
I'm so glad I read this and that I subscribed to you because this post has brought genuine tears to my eyes. I've never seen another ace person describe an experience that is so close to my own before. The confusion between romantic and sexual attraction because you grow up believing they tie in together, the sexual attraction tied in to your self worth, the arousal as a response to something happening rather than experiencing sexual attraction... I don't know, everything hit very close to home and I'm glad it did.
I'm also 30 and I don't want a relationship and I've struggled for a few years now with the fact that I'm 'supposed' to be having casual sex with people even though I'm not attracted to them, and I've often wondered how else it could be, so your description of Spring 2023 was especially touching.
Thank you!